Divorce brings major changes to the lives of everyone involved. Perhaps no one experiences these changes more profoundly than children, which is why it is essential to break the news of the divorce gently and with great care. Your attorney will handle the legal aspects of the divorce. But it’s up to you and your soon-to-be ex-spouse to address the matter with the kids. Below are a few tips to help you do that.

How to Tell Your Kids You're Getting Divorced

1. Prepare What to Say Beforehand

Before sitting down with the kids, both spouses should take the time to map out a general idea of what they will say. Rehearse the conversation and prepare answers to questions your children may ask. Aim to answer questions honestly but tactfully. Keep the conversation general to avoid going into the intimate details of the split. Keep the tone warm and civilized and the language age-appropriate.

2. Tell Them Together

Call a family meeting and break the news together. Don't make the conversation the responsibility of just one parent. Both spouses should leave the disagreements to their attorneys, set aside their differences, and present a united front for the sake of the children. If you have a larger family, ensure that all the kids are gathered together. Make sure to convey the message that you’re still a family and still united, even though some changes will be occurring.

3. Remind Them That the Divorce Isn't Their Fault

Kids may blame themselves when situations go wrong. During a divorce, some children may assume that the end of the marriage is their fault. Relieve this burden by telling the kids that the separation is not their fault, that the decision rests solely between the parents, and that the kids still have—and will always have—two parents who love them.

The attorneys at Zebley, Mehalov & White, P.C., will help your family navigate the divorce process. Since 2001, they have been representing Fayette, Washington, Greene, and Westmoreland counties in Southwestern Pennsylvania. They provide legal services in different practice areas, including family law cases, bankruptcies, and wills and estates. Call (724) 439-9200 to schedule a consultation with an attorney or visit them online to browse their practice areas.