An epitaph is an inscription on a gravestone or memorial plaque placed at a burial site. It usually commemorates the decedent’s role in life or their accomplishments or legacy and is sometimes written in verse. When your loved ones are preplanning their funeral arrangements, have them think about what they would like their epitaph to say.

How to Create an Epitaph

1. Keep It Simple

Epitaphs should be brief, encapsulating the essence of the decedent in as few words as possible. A line from a favorite poem or a Bible verse may be used. “Beloved Son” or “Mother of Sue and Sam” are examples of the simplest of all epitaphs. It doesn’t need to be overly sentimental or sad; it can be the opposite—joyful and celebratory.

2. State Their Desires

Preplanned funeral arrangements that stipulate exactly how an epitaph should be expressed may be rare, but a record of the deceased person’s desired form of remembrance would be appreciated even if they can’t put the words together. There are no rules for epitaphs. Inside jokes, recipes, and song lyrics have all been used as epitaphs. 

3. Share Their Legacy

Encourage your loved ones to think about constructing an epitaph that honors their military service, service to their community, or a special talent. If that tack doesn’t suit, perhaps they’d like to share a trademark phrase or a piece of wisdom that helped them get through hard times.

If possible, have your loved one specify their epitaph when preplanning their funeral arrangements. Ritchay Funeral Home, in Wisconsin Rapids, WI, has been compassionately assisting families with funeral arrangements, memorials, and grief support since 1957. Call (715) 423-1414 to speak with a member of the staff, or visit the website to learn more about them.