Funeral services provide an opportunity to honor someone who has passed away, while offering support to their grieving loved ones. This etiquette guide will help you know what to do (and not do) when attending a funeral and communicating with the deceased’s family.

Do’s:

Dress Respectfully

You don’t need to wear black to a funeral, but you should  dress respectfully—nothing too short, low-cut, loud, or tattered. Your choice in funeral attire shouldn’t attract attention.

Turn Off Your Phone

No one wants to hear the ringtone (or even the vibration) of your phone during a funeral service. You also shouldn’t send any text messages or browse the internet. If you feel you’ll be too tempted to use your phone, leave it in your car.

Send Flowers

Many people choose to send flowers to the funeral home, which is always appreciated. However, you could send flowers to the family’s residence instead. Bringing a meal to the house would also be warmly received.

Don’ts:

Sit in the Front Row

The first few rows at funeral services are generally reserved for the immediate family. If you aren’t in that group, sit several rows back and scoot toward the middle. Latecomers (and don’t be one!) should be allowed to find places on the ends of rows, not have to step over other attendees.

Be Afraid to Smile

When talking with the spouse and family members of the deceased, share stories and fond memories of their loved one. If the memories make you happy, they’ll likely cheer the family as well.

Forget to Follow Up

Although the outpouring of support immediately after a funeral is expected, that support sometimes wanes quickly. Stay connected with the family by communicating regularly with them. Send cards, offer to help with shopping, and visit when you can. These simple kindnesses will help a family overcome grief.

The caring staff at Middendorf Funeral Home has been serving Northern Kentucky for over 150 years with compassionate and professional service. They are committed to providing a comforting experience for families during difficult times. Call (859) 341-7800 to speak to a representative, or visit their website for more information about funeral services, obituaries, flowers, and memorials.