Discussing death with your children is a difficult situation, but, at some point, it will become necessary. Sooner or later, a loved one will pass away, and you’ll have to spend time at a funeral home, making arrangements and attending services. And your child may start to ask why this person isn’t around any more. If you’re not sure where to begin, take a look at the tips below. 

Tips for Discussing Death With Your Children

1. Be Direct

We all find it difficult to discuss and understand death, but this is no time to sidestep the reality of the situation. Using the common phrases about death that we generally employ in adult conversations, such as “passing away,” can confuse your child. Instead, explain that the person is no longer here—and not coming back—and how it’s not the same as someone moving away or going on a trip. While this may be difficult at first, your child will develop a healthy perception of death because of it.

2. Provide Comfort

Just as you might not accept death until you begin making funeral arrangements, it may also take time for your child to process their feelings before attending the funeral or memorial service. You can help them by having an honest conversation and offering comfort (both physical and emotional) as they try to grasp the concept. Try to answer any questions they may have as honestly and plainly as possible.

3. Discuss Your Feelings 

While your child may not react right away, they may respond at a later point. Perhaps they will begin crying as you arrive at the funeral home or after leaving the burial site. Being open with them about your feelings can help them feel better about expressing their emotions. Additionally, it will create a family dynamic that emphasizes talking about feelings instead of repressing them.

4. Help Your Child Know What to Expect

If they feel comfortable, you can invite older children to the funeral and memorial services. But explain to them what will happen at each stage and how they should dress and act to show respect. For particularly young children, it’s not recommended to bring them along, but you can still explain to them where you are going and what will happen so they are prepared for the future. 

Gilligan Funeral Homes serves the Cincinnati, OH, area, providing funeral, burial, and cremation services to the community. Losing a loved one is a challenging experience, but their compassionate services will help give you and your family the closure you need. By visiting their website, you can determine which services will be the most helpful to you and your family. Alternatively, you can speak with them directly at (513) 281-8311.