Whether your child is frustrated by a learning disability, being bullied by their peers, or dealing with problems at home and in therapy, their internal reaction could manifest as behavioral problems at school. While you might not be able to confront the bullies yourself or keep a relative’s passing a secret, you can help your child deal with their thoughts and emotions in a healthy, productive way. If you’ve received word of their poor behavior from their teacher or principal, use the following tips to find a solution.

What to Do When Your Child Has Behavioral Issues at School

1. Stay in Touch With the Teacher

As a parent, it’s hard to hear that your child is being difficult, and you might feel defensive. However, put that initial reaction aside and open a consistent line of communication with the teacher. Check in with them through email the next day your child returns to school, and ask them how it went. Give them your phone number, and let them know they can call you if another issue arises. At the end of every week, for at least the next few weeks, arrange a conference with the teacher, so you can discuss your child’s behavior and progress in person. If the teacher knows that you’re involved and willing to help, your child will be in a much better place to improve.

2. Listen and Respond Without Judging When Your Child Talks to You

therapyIf your child does open up to you about problems at school, use it as an opportunity to get closer to them. Instead of remaining an authority figure, sit down and ask them to explain the situation, as well as how it made them feel. Then, spark their problem-solving skills by asking them how they could handle the same situation better in the future. If your child feels like you’re on their side, they’ll be more motivated to return home with positive news.

3. Mark Triumphs in Their Behavioral Journey 

If your child or their teacher expresses an improvement to you, remind your child how far they’ve come. Let them know they’ve earned a movie night with friends, or pizza and a board game with the family. If there’s an assembly, class play, or other special event coming up, provide an incentive for them to be mindful of their behavior. For example, if they are respectful to their teacher or quiet during the performance, they can finally get that video game they’ve been eyeing.

If you’ve tried these tips and your child is still facing behavioral problems, consider setting up a therapy appointment with Families, Inc. Counseling Services. Our agency has nearly 20 years of experience helping clients throughout Northeast, North Central, and Central Arkansas. Whether your child is dealing with depression, behavioral problems, or post-traumatic stress, schedule a therapy appointment with a counselor today. To learn more about our wide range of services, including family and couples therapy, visit our website.