Security is an important element in a successful relationship. Issues such as jealousy, doubt, and lack of trust can emerge even in healthy relationships, but it’s possible to solve these security issues through cooperative methods such as couples counseling. Here are several key signs you could be experiencing insecurity in your relationship.

5 Signs of Insecurity in Couples

1. Needing Reassurance

If you find yourself needing to be reassured of your partner’s love and commitment, it could suggest an internal struggle. Sometimes, couples counseling sessions can uncover insecurities which can be resolved through exercises like journaling, mindfulness, and solo therapy sessions.

2. Worrying About Loss

Some individuals in relationships worry that their partner will leave or reject them. Try to trace this insecurity to its source to understand how to move forward. Fear of abandonment is not uncommon, but it’s also important to make sure you aren’t in a relationship just because you don’t want to be alone.

3. Displaying Jealousy

Closely monitoring a loved one’s social media accounts, demanding to see their phone, and spying on their activity are red flags which suggest consuming jealousy. While it’s natural to want a committed relationship, unhealthy jealousy is an insecurity which should be addressed by actively working to build trust. 

4. Avoiding Confrontation

If you’re bothered by something in your relationship but are hesitant to bring it up, take note. Both the issue itself and your unwillingness to address it could point to communication problems. Couples counseling can help you and your partner find ways to become more transparent with one another. 

5. Picking Fights

At the other end of the spectrum, frequent fighting over minor issues can also indicate issues with security. Major arguments over smaller issues often indicate that there’s an unresolved problem in the relationship.

Whether you think your relationship is suffering from insecurity or other issues, Laurie Burns LCSW-R CGP can help. Located in Rochester, NY, this professional has counseled couples and other clients for more than 20 years. She’ll help you and your partner cultivate effective strategies for confronting any relationship problems you may be experiencing in a way that works best for you. Explore her full list of services online or call (585) 734-6826 to schedule an appointment.