Divorce is almost always an emotionally difficult process, stirring negative emotions when you need to be able to communicate clearly and navigate complex legal issues. Whenever possible, try to negotiate an amicable settlement with your spouse. However, both spouses experiencing negative emotions can make discussing legal matters hard. Fortunately, there are a few techniques that will help you both navigate divorce proceedings productively.

3 Tips for Communicating During a Divorce

1. Do Not Talk When You Are Upset

The demands and the circumstances surrounding divorce can trigger deep emotions and a desire to act defensively. However, before responding to anything your spouse says or does, think about whether engaging in an emotional confrontation will help you achieve your goals. Instead, rely on family, friends, or a therapist to help you work through these feelings, and communicate with your spouse when your head is clear. If children are involved, keep in mind their well being. They are to be kept away from the spousal conflicts. 

2. Set Clear Boundaries

Taking control over the process will help you avoid getting drawn into unnecessary conflict and provide some peace of mind. For instance, you may decide that you will respond to communications at your leisure, and will not be rushed into making decisions that could affect the rest of your life.

3. Try to Remain Cordial

Regardless of how upset you may feel, lashing out will only give your spouse a license to do the same, and you may find yourself saying things that you will regret later. Try to maintain a cordial, polite tone when speaking with your spouse or their attorney at all times. If that is not possible, allow your divorce attorney to speak for you.
 

If you’re going through a divorce, the legal team at Guillien Van Nuland, LLC is here to care for you and your family. With more than 50 years of combined experience, they represent clients in the La Crosse, Wisconsin, area, including Monroe, Vernon, Trempealeau, Crawford, Juneau, and Buffalo Counties in Wisconsin and Houston, Fillmore and Winona Counties in Minnesota. Visit their website for more information on how they can help, or call (608) 782-4411 to arrange your initial consultation today.