If your friend recently lost a loved one, they are likely going through a difficult time, especially if the memorial service was recently held. It can be hard to know how to support them during this time. Here are a few ways to help your friend through the grieving process.

4 Ways to Be There for a Grieving Friend

1. Be There to Talk & Listen

They might not be ready to communicate about it right away, but when they are, be there to talk, and—most importantly—to listen. If they want to talk, but not about their recent loss or the memorial service, allow them to do so. If they’re ready to speak about it, let them know you’re open to talking. Also, tell them that it’s okay to feel whatever they’re feeling.

2. Help Them With Their Chores & Errands

During the grieving process, it can be difficult for someone to carry out their daily chores and errands. Extending a hand to them during this time by offering to go to the grocery store or picking their kids up from school will help relieve some of the pressure they might be feeling. 

3. Be There for Them Long-Term

Your friend may be taking a longer time than you think is normal. However, everyone heals at their own pace. They may take a while to open up. Also, they may need to repeat the story numerous times, which is part of their healing process. Remember to be patient and give them the time they need.

4. Look for Signs of Depression

When a friend loses someone especially close, keep an eye out for any symptoms of depression. They may be feeling as if they are completely alone, so make sure to remind them they are surrounded by others that love and support them. If you’re not sure what the difference is between mourning and depression, here are some symptoms to watch for:

• No longer interested in their daily activities
• Changes in sleep
• Weight gain or loss
• No energy or feel chronic fatigue
• Constantly criticizing themselves
• Behaving recklessly
• Talk of suicide

If you notice they’ve been exhibiting these symptoms, make sure they get the help they need.

 

For further grief support and guidance while planning a memorial service, turn to Cornelius, Dodd & Connell Inc. Funeral Home. Located in Middletown, NY,  and serving Orange County, they’ve been helping families with funeral services for more than 100 years. To start the memorial service planning process, call (845) 343-2142. Visit them online to learn more about their services.