Funerals provide a time to say goodbye to loved ones who have passed on, and they’re places to show support for grieving family members and friends. Sometimes, however, it’s difficult to sense what’s appropriate for the service and what isn’t. Use this etiquette guide to communicate appropriately next time you attend a funeral service.

A Brief Guide to Funeral Etiquette

1. Dress Respectfully

Despite what you may have heard, not everyone needs to wear black to a service. However, attendees should still dress respectfully. Funeral attire shouldn't draw excessive attention to the wearer. Dark or subdued colors are appropriate; provocative or ratty clothing is not.

2. Be Careful Where You Sit

Typically, the first two rows at a funeral service are reserved for the immediate family and sometimes close friends. If you aren't in this category, sit farther back and toward the middle, allowing latecomers to enter quietly on the side.

3. Honor the Deceased

Express your condolences to the spouse and other close family members of the departed. Don't be afraid to tell stories or fond memories of the decedent. Though it's not appropriate to hoot and holler, there's nothing wrong with smiling or laughing when reminiscing.

4. Turn Off Your Phone

It should go without saying that you should turn your cell phone off during a funeral and burial service. Don't just put it on vibrate; turn it all the way off out of respect to the deceased and the family.

5. Gift Flowers or a Meal

Most people send a bouquet ahead of time to the funeral home or the spouse’s or family's residence. Flowers are a beautiful choice, but also consider sending a food basket or bringing a meal to the wake.

6. Consider the Graveside Service

Following the funeral, a procession of vehicles usually heads to the cemetery for the graveside service. If you'd like to attend, ensure the burial is open to all and not intended to be a small, private ceremony. If everyone is welcome, it’s a nice gesture to attend.

7. Support the Family

Your care for the family shouldn't end after the funeral service. Send a handwritten note or card and follow up regularly to offer your support. Family members want to be assured their loved one is not forgotten, so they will likely welcome your company.

For funeral and cremation arrangements, contact Herman-Taylor Funeral Home & Cremation Center in Wisconsin Rapids, WI. Since 1953, this compassionate company has assisted Wood County residents with funeral services. They also help prepare obituaries, plan memorial services, and arrange burial services. Call (715) 423-5460 or visit their website for more information.