When a friend or relative passes away, parents may be left with a complicated decision — should they bring their child to the funeral service? If you can relate to this situation, think carefully before bringing your little ones. As you prepare for the service and its surrounding events, use the following guide to decide whether or not your children should attend.

3 Factors to Consider When Deciding to Bring a Child to a Funeral Service

1. Age

If your child is still an infant, and the decedent didn’t specifically ask them to be present, consider leaving your child out of the service. Babies won’t be able to comprehend the proceedings, and they may become fussy or hungry, disturbing grieving mourners. If they weren’t close to the deceased, you might not want to bring children under the age of 7. By first grade, they will be able to comprehend the passing and the reverent manner of a funeral service. Plus, they will be able to remember the service when they’re older, which may bring them comfort regarding their lost loved one.

2. Relationship to the Decedent

Your child’s direct connection with the deceased may make their age irrelevant. For example, if your lost loved one requested that you bring your baby to the service, or if they were a main caretaker for your toddler, you might want to bring the child out of principle. As your little one ages, they might want to know if they were at the funeral service — knowledge that can bring a sense of closure. If the deceased was a part of the child’s immediate family or involved in their daily life (such as a teacher or aunt), strongly consider bringing them along.

3. Type of Service

In addition to the funeral service, there are other aspects of traditional proceedings, such as the visitation or wake. At these events, an open casket could be frightening or confusing for a young child. If the individual will be cremated, it may be hard to explain the presence of an urn. Therefore, if you think your little one isn’t ready to face these aspects of the proceedings, let that knowledge guide your decision. If they want to say goodbye, visit the columbarium or cemetery after the service. If the child is 10 or older, ask them if they want to contribute to the ceremony with a reading or other tribute.

If you need help planning the details of a funeral service, turn to Herman-Taylor Funeral Home & Cremation Center in Wisconsin Rapids, WI. Since 1953, they have been helping families plan dignified, memorable ceremonies for friends and relatives, and they will be happy to address all your needs and concerns. Whether you envision an eco-friendly burial or a cremation, visit their website to learn more about your options. Call (715) 423-5460 to speak to a compassionate funeral director.