Being asked to write a eulogy for a loved one’s funeral is a huge honor. However, it’s natural to be nervous about the task. You want to ensure you write an appropriate send-off and that you’re able to deliver it in a meaningful way to your audience. Here’s some advice to help out.

How to Give a Fitting Eulogy for a Loved One

1. Talk With Friends & Family

Even if you knew the deceased well, confer with other friends and family when penning the eulogy. They could share a personal anecdote that exemplifies the life of your loved one. You can also collect a number of stories to show the person from multiple angles. 

2. Make Sure It's the Proper Length

You could probably talk endlessly about the person you lost. However, it’s best to keep the speech between three and five minutes long. A funeral is an emotionally trying experience for all involved, which means most people will have trouble paying attention to a eulogy that’s ten minutes or longer. 

3. Speak Slowly & Clearly

You might be nervous about the public speaking aspect of giving a eulogy. Keep in mind that a funeral audience is bound to be forgiving of verbal slip-ups and breaks. Ensure your carefully crafted words are heard by speaking as slowly and clearly as possible, even if you must pause occasionally.

4. Practice the Eulogy Aloud

Before the day of the funeral, spend some time practicing your eulogy. Reading it aloud will help with the editing, and it can ensure you don’t falter when the time comes. Try simulating a live audience by reading it in front of a trusted friend or relative. 

In New Haven County, CT, Porto Funeral Homes provides more than seven decades of experience to local families. They can help you arrange a beautiful and respectful funeral that honors the loved one you lost while bringing friends and family together. They can also help you personalize a funeral service and offer a number of interment options, including cremation. If you have special requests, they’ll go above and beyond to ensure they’re met. Call (203) 467-3000 to speak to someone in East Haven or contact the West Haven home by calling (203) 934-5000. You can also learn more about funeral services by visiting the website.