Pre-planning funeral arrangements is one of the greatest gifts you can give to family. After all, it’s a comfort knowing the stress of making decisions will be lightened in a challenging time and that your wishes will be respected. Although it may seem challenging to start the conversation, try these tips for talking to family about funeral arrangements.

4 Tips for Helping Family Talk About Funeral Pre-Planning

1. Have the Conversation Now

Although children or other family members may feel there’s no reason to discuss your plans now, let them know you to want to plan ahead, before illness, injury, or memory loss is an issue. Approach the topic practically, and be clear about what type of funeral service you would like. If you or family have recently attended a funeral, use this as a point of entry for the discussion.

2. Listen to Others

Have an open conversation that respects everyone’s feelings and concerns. Although it will be your funeral, loved ones may want to weigh in on the type of service or alternate memorials they feel would be meaningful. Let the conversation evolve and be prepared to revisit the topic on other occasions. 

3. Make a Will

No one is obligated to carry out your funeral wishes unless it has been specified in a will. Tell loved ones what you’d like beforehand and get their agreement, then put it in writing so there is no confusion or argument when the time comes.

4. Keep a File

Everyone should keep a file of important information for their family for when they die. This can include your will, notes on who you want as the pallbearer, or if there are charities you’d like to receive memorial donations in your name. Be specific about burial or cremation and if there is a certain religious service you would prefer.

Pre-planning funeral arrangements is a blessing to family, especially if you discuss it beforehand. Caring for their community since 1931, Porto Funeral Homes serves New Haven County, CT, with compassionate and professional funeral services, pre-planning, and burial and cremation options. Call (203) 467-3000 to reach their East Haven, or (203) 934-5000 for West Haven. Visit their website to see funeral pre-arrangement options.