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Perhaps your relationship with your partner has felt strained lately. Even if you don’t sense any major issues, maybe you’d like an objective opinion to help you work through small problems before they grow into big headaches. Regardless of the current state of your relationship, couples counseling can provide the solution to a happier, healthier union. If you think counseling services are right for your relationship, consider these tips to broach the subject with the one you love.

4 Tips For Bringing Up Couples Counseling with Your Partner

1. Pick The Right Time

Find a time to discuss couples counseling when both of you are in good moods, such as on a lazy Sunday afternoon or after a weekday dinner when you’re both relaxed. Don’t mention the idea in the middle of an argument; this will not help the situation, and it may even be perceived as a threat. Bringing up counseling when you’re both calm decreases the chances of your partner getting defensive.

2. Make It Clear Your Commitment Hasn’t Changed

couples-counselingStart by saying how much you love your partner. Continue mentioning this throughout the discussion. Couples counseling is not a sign that your relationship is about to fail. Rather, it’s a reaffirmation of your commitment to one another. It should tell your partner that you believe your relationship is worth fighting for and isn’t something you’ll allow to deteriorate.

3. Use “I” Statements

Focus on “I” statements rather than “you” statements, which can sound accusatory. Take responsibility for your role in the current state of your relationship. Discuss how couples counseling will make you a more supportive and loving partner. Before you mention counseling, emphasize that self-improvement is important to you. Your words may inspire your spouse.

4. Emphasize The Benefits

Stress the many benefits of couples counseling and how it will help your relationship in the future. Talking about your issues now helps avoid resentment and bitterness, makes communication easier, and brings you closer together. Learning how to be the best partner possible will make both of you feel more loved. This can also help issues with physical intimacy.
 

 

Strengthen your relationship with couples counseling from Laurie Burns LCSW-R CGP in Rochester, NY. Certified by the American Group Psychotherapy Association, Laurie has received the William P. Hart Award from the Rochester General Hospital Behavioral Health Network for her outstanding work. Call (585) 734-6826 today to make your appointment or visit the licensed professional counselor online for more details regarding her services.

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