Divorce lawyers know firsthand that splitting up is the right decision for many couples. That doesn’t necessarily mean ending a marriage is ever easy, though. At the end of the day, filing prompts a major life transition that affects every member of the family, including the kids. In fact, it’s often the children who take the separation the hardest because they don't understand the situation. Fortunately, parents can lessen the impact of divorce by explaining it to their kids in an age-appropriate way. If you’re not sure how to do so, here are a few tips for getting started.

How to Explain Divorce to Your Children

1. Keep It Simple

Try sticking to just the facts, and keep your explanations simple. For example, if the kids ask why you’re splitting up, tell them you’re both happier when apart, and avoid assigning blame or sharing complicated details that might paint one party in a negative light. Older children may probe for more information; while you shouldn't necessarily lie to them, it’s wise to keep them on a “need-to-know” basis.

2. Remind Them of Your Love

Avoid telling the kids you’re getting divorced because you don’t love each other anymore. Although this may be true, children might interpret it to mean you’ll stop loving them someday, too. They may also wonder if they’re to blame for the split. Therefore, it’s essential to start and end every conversation about the divorce by reminding them that you love them and that you’ll always be a family, regardless of whether you live together.

3. Tell the Kids Together

Divorce lawyers do not typically advise clients to spend a lot of time outside of court with their soon-to-be-ex, but presenting a united front is usually in the children’s best interests. If possible, tell the kids together, and ensure you’re on the same page regarding the questions they'll most likely ask before starting the conversation.

The divorce lawyers at Arnold Law Offices know how stressful ending a marriage can be. That's why they fight tirelessly on behalf of their clients to secure the most favorable outcomes possible. Based in Pell City, AL, they represent individuals throughout all of St. Clair and Talladega Counties. In addition to family law, their areas of expertise include bankruptcy law, debt consolidation, personal injury law, and criminal defense. To get in touch with a strategic divorce lawyer on their team, call (205) 338-6565 or reach out on their website.