Anger is a healthy and normal emotion. There’s nothing wrong with venting frustrations and feeling upset in proportion to difficult circumstances. In some cases, however, rage is unhealthy and unproductive, interfering in your quality of life and affecting your relationships. While professional counseling and other treatment methods can provide you with strategies and better coping mechanisms, it's often challenging to identify problems. The following three signs may indicate that it’s time to seek help. 

3 Common Signs of an Anger Disorder

1. Passive Aggression

Anger doesn’t always have to be explosive. Many people suffer from chronic passive aggression, a subtler expression of fury that can still have devastating effects. You may do this without even realizing it. Sarcasm or apathy are examples and are often used to manipulate or break down others. If you feel consistently underappreciated or burdened by the requests of friends, coworkers, and loved ones, this may eventually lead to bitterness, complaints, and sabotage — whether intentional or unconscious — of others. Seeking professional counseling may help you identify the underlying cause of these emotions and find healthier ways to express your needs. 

2. Placing Blame

Anger often manifests as aggressive attacks on others, whether physical or verbal. When you place blame on others or criticize them, you may be overcoming deep-seated insecurities by making yourself superior. This can happen in the workplace, in relationships, or even with strangers. If friends and family begin avoiding you, or exhibiting fear around you, this isn’t a sign of respect — it’s often a sign that your behavior has become inappropriate and you may need help. 

3. Mood Swings

Many people associate anger issues with severe mood swings. If the smallest issue sets you off, especially on levels disproportionate to the situation, you can find yourself in trouble. Short tempers can have negative consequences for your relationships and your career. The general stress is also unhealthy. A therapist will help you practice deep breathing, reasoning techniques, and other effective and personalized practices to calm yourself in specific situations. They’ll also help you gain perspective that can provide you with deep and abiding inner calm. 

Professional counseling is an invaluable resource for people with anger issues. If you’re concerned and want assistance, turn to therapist Laurie Burns LCSW-R CGP. Based in Rochester, NY, she brings over 20 years of experience to her clients. With compassion and individualized attention, she’ll help you overcome personal challenges. Explore her services in detail on her website and call (585) 734-6826 to schedule a professional counseling appointment.