Many children are first exposed to death when a loved one passes. The memorial service and aftermath can be confusing for a little one who doesn’t understand what’s happening, so discussing the event before a service can help them comprehend its significance and why adults are so affected by it. If you’d like some advice on how to navigate this difficult topic with your child, here are some guidelines to help you.

Your Guide to Explaining Death to Kids

1. Discover What They Understand

Your children may already have an understanding of death from what they’ve witnessed or heard about in nature, so ask them if they have any questions about the event. This will help you identify what your child already knows and what they’re confused about, giving you a solid foundation for a discussion and preventing you from confusing them further by explaining the situation differently. 

2. Explain In Broad Terms

You may be discussing death for the first time because of a loved one’s upcoming memorial service, but speak about death generally so your child understands that it applies to all living things. Explain the cycle of life, which you can do by referencing the seasons, plants, or other elements of nature. If your family is religious, you can also incorporate a discussion of your belief to help your little one comprehend the event in a way that aligns with your values.

3. Encourage Them to Express Their Feelings

Death and loss can be scary and difficult for people of all ages, so ensure your child knows that it’s okay to cry or feel sad. Since they might see adults crying at a memorial service, preparing them to witness it can help them keep calm and reduce confusion. Encourage your child to share their feelings and thoughts so they know they’re taken care of and to come to you when they feel grief.

If you’ve recently suffered a loss, turn to the staff at Brown Funeral Homes & Cremations in the area of Martinsburg, WV. Committed to assisting families in their time of need, they provide comprehensive after-life services including funeral arrangements, cremation, and products to make the planning process as painless as possible. Visit their website to learn more about how they can help, or call (304) 263-8896 to schedule a memorial service.