Wakes are social gatherings that take place before the funeral service. They are designed to bring friends and family together as a way to provide support and share memories about the deceased. If you’ve never been to a wake before, it’s helpful to know the proper etiquette before attending one. Below are three tips to keep in mind. 

3 Tips for Wake Etiquette

1. Arrive at an Adequate Time

The family of the deceased will provide attendees with the designated wake hours. Don’t show up before or after this window, as the family may be planning their own intimate ceremony and this could interfere with their privacy. If you don’t make it in time, you can still attend the funeral services to pay your respects. 

2. Wear Proper Attire

Subdued colors, such as black and dark blue, are the appropriate colors for your attire. Never wear bright or flashy clothing, as this can take away attention from the deceased and is a sign of disrespect. Wakes are formal, so consider wearing a suit, dress, slacks, blouses, or dress pants.

3. Express Your Condolences Appropriately

Finding the right words isn’t easy, but saying “I’m sorry for your loss” is enough to convey your condolences. If you’re close with the loved ones of the deceased,  you can bring flowers or offer a hug when it’s appropriate. Make sure to pay your respects to the family in a short, yet meaningful way, as there may be other people lining up to offer their condolences. 

If you or a loved one need assistance planning a funeral service, turn to the compassionate staff at Leo M. Bean And Sons Funeral Home. Serving Rochester, NY, for over 40 years, this family-owned funeral home is dedicated to helping families plan every step of the funeral service so that you can focus on grieving. Give them a call at (585)426-7830 to schedule a consultation with a caring funeral director. You can also visit them online to learn more about their offerings.