When your college roommate or family member announces they’re expecting, you might jump at the chance to throw them a baby shower to celebrate. If you’ve never organized a baby shower before, however, you may be wondering where to begin. Here is a general etiquette guidebook established by generations of families before you to help you plan the perfect celebration.

3 Etiquette Tips For Planning a Baby Shower

1. Guest List & Invitations

As the host, since you’ll be picking out a venue and paying for the expenses, it’s appropriate to set a guest limit, but unless the baby shower is a surprise, the expecting mother should be the one to choose the guests. Send any formal invitations 4 to 6 weeks before the event to ensure people have enough time to plan accordingly.

2. The Party

If the mother has requests for their baby shower, such as decorations or color scheme, it’s polite to accommodate them even if you’ve already started assembling your vision.

If the party is a surprise, try to plan activities around the honoree’s personality, or ask other family members about what they may or may not want. Some traditional activities include a meal and gift opening, but you can also make unorthodox decisions like including husbands on the guest list and having live entertainment if they suit the future mommy. 

3. Gifts

Even if you’re hosting the party, it’s proper etiquette to give the expecting mother some token of celebration. On average, baby shower gifts should be items for a nursery or clothing for the new baby, and fall around $30 to $50. However, if you’re particularly close with the honoree, or spot the dreamiest bassinet, it’s never rude to be generous.

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