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If your parent has recently lost their spouse, finding the right words to comfort them can be challenging. Their grief may be further complicated by the fact that they now face many responsibilities alone. Chances are, you’re likely grieving during this time, too. As you step in to take on the role of caregiver while your loved one mourns, here are a few do’s and don’ts which might make this new phase easier on both of you.

Do:

Consider their emotions.

Everyone heals differently. You may feel most comfortable tackling action items like cleaning out belongings, but your parent will likely need time to process their loss before they’re ready for these steps to take place. Give them time and consider their emotions. If they’re resistant to complete tasks that need to get done, table any issue that isn’t time sensitive, and bring it back up in a few weeks. 

Ask what you can help with.

Your parent will find themselves in uncharted territory, and it may be the first time they’ve ever lived alone. Instead of jumping in to help in whatever way you think is best, start by asking what they need help with. For example, some widows and widowers need assistance managing finances, while others might need help with daily chores as they get into the routine of managing a household on their own.

Don’t:

Try to control your parent.

caregiverSometimes, genuine concern for a loved one may be perceived as domineering behavior. If you’re worried about your parent’s safety or health now that they’re on their own, it’s important to check in on them regularly and offer help—without overtaking their routine. Your parent may still prefer an independent lifestyle, and as long as it isn’t a risk to their health, you shouldn’t try to force them into a different living arrangement.

Rule out a professional caregiver.

There may be times when your parent needs help at home but you can’t get to them. This is especially true if you live out of state or travel often. Hiring a professional caregiver ensures your family member will receive the quality care and assistance they need, while being able to stay in their familiar home environment where they’re most comfortable.

 

If you have a parent who could use assistance at home and lives alone in the Berkeley, St. Charles, or St. Louis, MO, areas, allow the dedicated caregivers at Deer Valley Home Health Services to help. For more than a decade, these compassionate professionals have provided quality home care services to the elderly population, along with special needs teens, children, adults, and veterans. Send their team a message online or call (314) 355-3679 to discuss your loved one’s needs today.

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