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The Do’s & Don’ts of Dressing for Funerals February 13, 2019

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The Do’s & Don’ts of Dressing for Funerals, Columbia, Illinois

Funerals are already a stressful time, but not knowing what to wear when attending one adds even more anxiety. There are several actions you should and shouldn’t do when deciding what to wear to a funeral and choosing the appropriate attire will prevent you from upsetting the other attendees by seeming insensitive. Below are a few simple do’s and don’ts on what to wear to a funeral home for services.


Ask for suggestions from friends.

This is important if the deceased comes from a different culture than yours. If you know other people attending the funeral, ask what they’ll wear, as it will give you an idea of what’s acceptable. If you don’t know anyone going, ask other friends of the deceased in a way that’s respectful and unobtrusive.

Err on the side of caution.

When you still have doubts about your attire, err on the side of caution. Aim for modest, formal or semi-formal clothing in black or dark colors, with matching shoes that are sensible for walking outside. Consider shopping for clothes if you don’t own anything suitable.

Follow requested dress codes.

funeralsIt’s not unusual for the family to request specific attire. This can be cultural, such as asking males to wear kippahs at Jewish services, or it can be to honor the personality of the deceased, such as wearing band t-shirts to the funeral of a musician. Ask family, friends, or the funeral home if there are dress requirements.


Wear bright or vivid colors.

Stay away from colored clothing. It’s traditional to wear black to funerals to symbolize your grief. It’s also a display of respect for the family. Showing up to funeral arrangements in vibrant clothing will be heavily frowned upon.

Be too casual.

Make do with what you can, but don’t be too casual. Clothing that’s revealing, torn, frayed, stained, or inappropriate should be avoided. You also shouldn’t show up in sweatpants, T-shirts, or worn shoes.

Be too extravagant.

Don’t be over-the-top with your outfit. Formal gowns, for instance, can be both black and formal, but at most funeral services, they’ll seem out of place and distracting. Stick with clothing that won’t stand out, and avoid gaudy hats, accessories, noisy jewelry, or flashy handbags.


If you or a loved one is searching for a funeral home that conducts unique and personal funerals, get in touch with Lawlor Funeral Home in Columbia, IL. For over 80 years, their seasoned funeral directors and caring staff have helped families honor and remember their loved ones with custom funeral arrangements and cremation services. Their website features helpful tools for funeral pre-planning, as well as grief counseling resources to help you get through your loss. Offering permanent memorialization and veterans’ services, they cater to every need possible, even offering cremation options for beloved pets. Learn more about what they offer for funerals online and call (618) 281-4123 to begin planning today.

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