When parents divorce, it’s never easy on the children. After all, it’s a major life transition that is going to affect their day-to-day life significantly. Although it’s natural for them to be upset—and it’s important to validate their feelings—there are ways for parents to lessen the emotional impact of the divorce and pending child custody battle.
How to Make Divorce Easier on Your Kids
1. Present a United Front
If possible, tell the children about the divorce together. This will let them know that you both still love them, even though you don’t necessarily love each other anymore. It will also illustrate a commitment to co-parenting moving forward.
2. Contain the Fighting
During even the most amicable divorce and child custody proceedings, arguments will inevitably break out. When disagreements do arise, avoid addressing them in front of the kids. Fighting around the children will only add to their stress and worsen an already tense situation.
3. Take New Relationships Slowly
Finalizing a divorce can take a long time. As a result, it’s not uncommon for people to start dating during the proceedings. However, introducing any romantic partners to your children too prematurely will only confuse them, especially while they are still trying to process the divorce. If you find yourself involved in a serious relationship with a new partner, hold off on bringing them into your children’s lives until after they’ve clearly adjusted to the conditions related to the divorce from your spouse.
4. Avoid Discussing Finances
It’s natural to stress over the financial impact of divorce, but it’s important to avoid doing so when the kids are around. It may be necessary to talk to older children about budgeting and explain why they have less spending money. However, try not to overwhelm them with financial issues that are out of their control, because burdening children with too many adult issues always does more harm than good.
5. Prioritize Their Best Interests
Co-parenting can be hard, especially when the divorce is still fresh. At the end of the day, though, nothing matters more than the well-being of children. Fortunately, as long as you prioritize their best interests, they will have the stability they need and the love they deserve.
If you need help navigating divorce or child custody proceedings, turn to the Law Office of Lora Stuart Shortt. Based in Lexington, SC, this firm is led by a seasoned divorce attorney, who has over 17 years of experience in the legal field. Lora understands just how stressful ending a marriage can be, which is why she practices with the utmost compassion, respect, and professionalism. To reach out and discuss your divorce or child custody concerns, complete the form on her website or call (803) 520-0455.