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Funerals can help bring closure and comfort to those who knew the deceased. Children may be able to receive the same benefits, but many people hesitate to bring children to a funeral for fear of upsetting them or because they may be disruptive. These are valid concerns, so here are a few tips for weighing your options.

When to Bring a Child to a Funeral Service

1. Were They Close to the Deceased?

If your child knew this person well, spent time with them, and will miss them, attending the funeral will be meaningful. However, if your child didn't know the deceased or didn't know them well, there may not be a reason for them to attend. In fact, it may be more upsetting to them to bring them, as death is a difficult and confusing topic for young children and there will be many emotional people present.

2. Will They Understand?

FuneralAs a rule of thumb, the older your child is, the more they'll gain from attending a funeral. Young kids may not understand what has happened or why they are there and won't get the emotional closure, which is the point of attending. Older children with a better understanding of the situation are more likely to want and benefit from going to the funeral home.

3. Can They Sit Still?

Similarly, the older your child is, the less disruptive they are likely to be to other attendees. Young children may not be able to hold still or be quiet for the full length of the funeral, and other guests may find it upsetting or disrespectful. You are most familiar with your child's abilities in this area, so trust your judgment. Also, talk to your child about your expectations before the event.

 

For compassionate and experienced help in funeral planning, contact Porto Funeral Homes in New Haven County, CT. For over 75 years, they have provided the community with dignified, personalized, and professional funeral services, as well as resources for grief counseling. For questions and help, call (203) 467-3000 for East Haven or (203) 934-5000 to reach their West Haven location. You can also reach out online.

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