Blended families are fairly common nowadays. Divorce is more socially acceptable than it’s ever been, which makes it a lot easier for those who are unhappy in their marriage to pursue a fresh start. However, that doesn’t mean creating a blended family has become easier. Merging two families and taking on the role of a stepparent is always going to pose certain challenges. Regardless of whether you, your partner, or both of you have children from a prior relationship, though, there are ways to foster a happy household, from attending family counseling to picking up hobbies together. 

3 Tips for Bringing Children Into a New Family

1. Take Each Child’s Lead

Countless factors can influence how quickly a child bonds with a new adult in his or her life. Everything from the child’s age to the adult’s discipline style can affect how long it takes the two to form a healthy familial relationship. In general, it is best to let the kids set the pace. Treat your relationship with each child as the unique dynamic that it is, and do not expect the kids to adjust to the new arrangement at the same speed or in the same way.

Instead, use each child’s individuality to bond with him or her over time. If one child is athletic and loves playing outside, for example, buy a couple of baseball mitts and play catch after school. If another is more artistic, head to the hobby shop together and pick up a canvas and some oil paints to make a family portrait. 

2. Start New Traditions

Maybe your children enjoy going bowling every Sunday afternoon, or your partner’s kids like taking a camping trip during the summer. Since the children will undoubtedly associate such traditions with their “old” families, though, it is wise to start new rituals instead. Doing new things together will help everyone bond, both in the moment and later, when reliving their favorite memories. It will also provide something to look forward to when tension arises and will help step-siblings form a closer relationship through shared experiences. 

3. Attend Counseling Together 

Family counseling provides a safe environment where participants can voice their feelings and concerns without fear. By attending regular sessions and committing to the process, everyone will develop the tools needed to move forward in a copacetic way.

Whether there is a communication breakdown in the household or some members are feeling under-appreciated, a family counseling expert will help you identify the root cause of any issues, so you can address them head-on. He or she can also help mitigate conflict between step-siblings, which is common in blended families. 

If you think your blended family could benefit from seeing a psychologist, turn to Feinberg & Associates in Lexington, KY. This local practice is led by David Feinberg, Ph.D., who is a recognized member of the American Psychology Association and has been helping individuals, couples, and families navigate some of life’s greatest challenges for more than 25 years. Feinberg is especially proud to provide comprehensive family counseling services for blended families who are struggling to manage their new dynamic. Visit the practice online to explore all the services and treatments they offer or call (859) 233-3390 to make an appointment today.