Moving in together is an exciting relationship milestone, but it often brings changes that catch even the closest couples by surprise. No matter how well you think you know one another, cohabiting may create issues that could lead to conflict or even the end of your relationship. Below are some of the most common reasons you might need couples counseling after moving in together.

The Most Common Relationship Struggles of Living Together

Financial Conflict

Even if you keep your personal accounts separate, signing a lease together is a financial union. If one of you is very careful with your money, while the other is always a little late paying the bills, tensions will arise. Fortunately, financial habits can be changed, and couples counseling professionals will recommend strategies to keep finances from getting in the way.

Different Housekeeping Habits

When you move in together, you and your partner will share responsibility for keeping your space clean. If one of you constantly leaves dirty dishes in the sink while the other insists on a spotless house, arguments will eventually occur. Chores and cleaning disagreements are easily resolved if both of you are willing to compromise. The messier person may have to put some more work into keeping the place clean, while the compulsive cleaner might have to relax their standards. Couples counseling will help you reach a mutually acceptable solution. 

Conflicting Expectations About Attention & Privacy

After moving in together, many couples find that one person needs a certain amount of alone time every day, while the other craves more interaction. These different expectations may sometimes lead to frustration, feelings of rejection, and even a split. Before moving in together, it’s important to communicate honestly about your needs, including how much time you want to yourself. Couples counseling will help you set boundaries and express your emotions clearly and productively. 

Even the best relationships take work, which is why Laurie Burns LCSW-R CGP is committing to giving you the skills to keep the love alive for years to come. This dedicated, caring, certified, and award-winning adviser offers effective couples counseling to families in the Rochester, NY, area dealing with a variety of issues in complete confidence. To learn how Laurie and her team will help, visit their website now, or call (585) 734-6826 to make your first appointment today.