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Memorial services can be emotionally challenging for everyone in attendance, especially those closest to the individual who has passed. While you may feel anxious or overwhelmed about attending, it’s important to go and show support for surviving family members. It can also aid in your own grieving process by promoting feelings of closure. Nonetheless, because memorials are rare occasions, you may benefit by preparing yourself with some best practices and things to avoid while attending a service.

Do:

Be punctual.

Traffic jams and other unforeseen circumstances can occur, but a memorial service is one occasion for which lateness is unacceptable. Disrupting a service can be seen as inconsiderate, so allow plenty of time for unexpected delays. If you do arrive late, wait until any ceremonial proceedings are over to greet the family.

Dress appropriately.

memorial servicesBusiness casual attire is considered appropriate for funerals and memorial services. Dress conservatively and avoid vibrant colors or patterns. Steer clear of shorts, flip-flops, sweatpants, or any other overly casual wardrobe items.

Silence your phone.

Before you enter the funeral home, turn your phone off or silence the ringer. An incoming phone call could interrupt a eulogy or other important aspect of the service, causing a disruption during a sensitive time.

Don’t:

Feel forced to partake in rituals.

Many aspects of funerals or memorial services are conducted according to the wishes of the deceased or their surviving loved ones. It’s possible that the nature of the service may be unfamiliar to you. If you’re comfortable viewing the body at open-casket memorials, receiving communion, or partaking in prayer recital, feel free to do so, but don’t feel obligated.

Stress over what to say.

Many people struggle to find the right thing to say to someone who has recently experienced loss. Don’t overthink it, and instead focus on offering a simple but compassionate message. Your presence, along with an expression of support such as “I’m sorry for your loss,” is enough.  

Forget to sign the guestbook.

The surviving family members may take comfort in looking back and reflecting on the individuals who came and supported them during their time of grief. If there’s a guestbook, sign only your name and reserve any special messages for sympathy cards or other opportunities to share condolences.

 

If you need assistance planning a memorial service for a loved one or pre-planning arrangements for yourself, allow the compassionate team from Bolton & Lunsford Funeral Homes to help. This caring team has been serving the Cincinnati, OH, community since 1938 with memorial and funeral services that pay tribute to those who have passed with honor and respect. Contact their professional team online or call (513) 661-4059 to speak with a staff member.

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