Divorce law attorneys know from experience that ending a marriage is the right decision for many unhappy couples. That doesn't mean doing so is easy, however. This type of separation prompts a significant life transition that affects the whole family and the change can be especially hard on any children involved. Although your kids may be upset no matter how you break the news to them, there are ways to lessen the emotional impact of the conversation. 

How to Tell Your Kids You’re Divorcing

1. Do It Together 

Telling your kids with your spouse helps present a united front, which lets the children know you are on the same page and have no intention of making them choose sides. And although it may be tempting to tell the older kids first, doing so will place a considerable burden on them until you finally reveal your plans to the younger children. Therefore, parenting experts recommend telling the whole family together. 

2. Be Open & Honest 

If you are certain there is no chance of reconciling, do not lead your children to believe that the arrangement is only temporary. They deserve honesty; however, they do not need to hear all the messy details or to be pressured into taking sides in the divorce law proceedings. Try to answer their questions about the split truthfully, but do so in an age-appropriate way that does not place blame on either parent. 

3. Anticipate Their Questions 

It’s wise to avoid telling the kids until you can answer some of their most pressing questions, like which parent will move out and how often they will get to see him or her. A divorce law attorney can help you negotiate the temporary arrangements with your spouse in preparation of this conversation.  

The divorce law attorneys at the Law Offices of Paul Lenkowsky in Bullhead City, AZ, know how challenging ending a marriage can be. They also know what’s at stake for every client, which is why they will fight relentlessly on your behalf to secure the most favorable settlement possible. Whether you're facing a contentious custody battle or lengthy alimony negotiations, their team will protect your best interests at every stage. To request an initial consultation, visit their website or call (928) 758-4815.