Divorce at any time of year can be a trying experience, even in amicable separations. But a split during the holidays comes with some additional complexities that can make the joyous season stressful and intense. Below are four ways to help you manage your divorce during the holidays.
How to Maintain a Civil Divorce This Holiday Season
1. Discuss Custody & Visitation Schedules in Advance
There's a good chance that you and your spouse will want to have the kids with you at some point during the holiday season. Be sure to make these arrangements well in advance. Keep the lines of communication with your ex open and clear, and set up schedules as soon as possible before either of you makes any definitive plans.
2. Be Flexible With Your Visitation Days
In the spirit of the season, aim to keep the peace. This means you may have to compromise when deciding on visitation and custody over the holidays. For instance, if your ex wants the kids on Christmas Day, consider celebrating the holiday with your children on Christmas Eve instead. Even a slight schedule change like that can make things considerably easier on everyone.
3. Involve the Kids in Your Schedule Plans
Where do the kids want to spend the holidays? Be sure you and your ex are taking your children’s needs and wishes into consideration during your scheduling process. By keeping them in the loop, you’re creating an open space for clear communication between you, your children, and your ex-spouse.
4. Announce Scheduling Plans Together
Once holiday schedules are set up, announce the plans to your kids together. This presents a unified and civil front to the children. While they will know that the dynamic of the family is changing as the divorce process proceeds, they’ll feel at ease when you and your spouse inform them of the new holiday schedule together.
With a little planning and preparation, you can be ready to handle a divorce during the holidays. For professional support and guidance with the legal aspects of the split, trust the attorneys at Bellotti Law Group, P.C. They represent Suffolk County and Massachusetts in several legal practice areas, including divorce, personal injuries, and criminal law cases. Schedule a free, initial consultation by calling (617) 778-1000 or visiting their website to read more about their family law experience.