As emotionally stressful as a contentious child custody case can be for you, it’s even harder for your children. Not only do they have to process a change over which they had no power, but they also have to deal with an uncertain future. While working through child custody issues in family law court, remember to focus on your own children’s well-being and try to make this experience as easy on them as possible.
3 Tips for Helping Your Child Through a Custody Case
1. Remind Them That You Love Them
When families split up, children have a habit of blaming themselves, and they often assume that their parents no longer love them. Remind your child that they did nothing to contribute to the divorce and that your love for them has not changed. This may seem obvious to you, but your children may benefit from hearing it repeatedly throughout the case.
2. Don’t Disparage the Other Parent
Divorces often leave parents feeling angry, hurt, and betrayed, but you should never express those emotions in front of your children. No matter how contentious the custody case may be, speaking ill of the other parent in front of your children will only make the situation worse. Your children may feel pressured to choose a side, and family law judges may consider your negative statements as proof that you’re creating a toxic environment at home.
3. Avoid Lavish Gift-Giving
Many parents want to instinctively give their children gifts to distract them from emotionally stressful situations, but they might see this as an attempt to gain favor if you’re involved in a custody dispute. Instead, give them support and consistency, and try to spend as much time with them as possible without discussing your ongoing legal matters.
With over 30 years of experience and an extensive family law background, the Law Office of Lawrence W. Henke, III provides vital legal support to clients throughout Dayton, OH, and the surrounding areas. If you’re going through a difficult divorce or a complex custody battle, you can rely on their team to protect your rights and those of your children. Visit their website for more information about their family law services, or call (937) 461-9330 to arrange a consultation with a legal professional.