Funeral styles have evolved in the modern era, but etiquette practices have remained mostly the same. If you're unfamiliar with the process, meeting the expectations of attendees without a clear set of rules can be intimidating. Considering the sensitive nature of the event, such concerns are only natural. However, there are a few basic guidelines designed to convey your compassion and support to the grieving family.

Do:

Arrive early.

Arriving late for a funeral is disruptive and achieves the exact opposite results that you want to communicate. To avoid causing distress to the bereaved, plan to arrive 20 to 30 minutes early. This time frame offers some room for delays, and if you end up reaching the location ahead of schedule, you'll have plenty of time to greet other attendees and sign the guest book. If circumstances outside of your control result in a late arrival, move quietly using the side aisles to access a seat at the back of the room.

Choose your seat carefully.

The first two rows of seating at a funeral are reserved for immediate family members. If you're not closely related to the family, it is best to choose a spot in the middle or back of the room to provide plenty of space. At a graveside service, chairs are typically limited and are only placed for the next of kin. Avoid sitting and leave additional standing room directly behind the seats to ensure all family members are able to get up front.

Don't:

Wear bright colors.

While you don't necessarily have to wear black, it is important that you avoid bright clothing unless otherwise noted in the obituary. The service is designed to commemorate the deceased, but it's also important that you pay respects to their loved ones. Bold, busy clothing is distracting and takes the attention away from the mourning family. Dark, muted tones free of patterns are the ideal attire for funerals. Keep accessories minimal.

Overwhelm the bereaved.  

The loss of a loved one is devastating, so it's important not to add any extra stress to the family. Constant conversation is emotionally draining, especially during times of grief. To show your support without overwhelming them, keep your condolences heartfelt but short. A simple offering of sympathy, like an apology for their loss, offers impact without putting any pressure on them.

The supportive staff at Johnson Funeral Home & Monuments understands the challenges families face in the aftermath of loss. For over 65 years, the family-owned funeral home has provided compassionate assistance to residents throughout Monroe County, AL. From memorial pre-planning arrangements to helpful recommendations for expressions of sympathy, they offer a wealth of helpful information on their website. For more personalized assistance, contact a friendly member of the staff today at (251) 575-3222.