Divorce is an emotionally difficult experience for everyone involved, but it can be especially rough on children, who may not have the maturity to fully understand why their lives are suddenly changing. While you can rely on your divorce lawyer to help you navigate the complexities of the legal system, it’s up to you to help your children cope with their new situation. In the short term, they might suffer some confusion and emotional pain, but there are steps you can take to help them thrive in the future.

Supporting Your Children Through a Divorce

Cooperate With Your Ex-Spouse

No matter how strained your relationship with the other parent might be, you both hopefully want what’s best for your children above all else. Try not to fight in front of the kids, even via telephone.  Avoid making negative comments about the other spouse in front of the kids. This can make them feel as though they have to choose a side, essentially abandoning one parent for the other.  Do not let your child choose whether or not to visit with the other parent.  Leave those decisions to the adults.  Children have a limited ability to exercise judgment in complex circumstances because of their immaturity. 

Stay Involved

In Tennessee, almost every Permanent Parenting Plan that results form a divorce involves “joint custody”.  “Joint” custody is not necessarily equal custody, but refers to the idea that both parents have certain rights involving their children that cannot be ignored.  But even if one of you has sole physical custody, communication with the other parent should ideally be easy and frequent.  Again, ideally,  each parent should be involved with extracurricular activities, homework assistance, and providing the love and attention every child needs.

Encourage Children to Talk About Their Feelings

After a divorce, expect your children to have complex feelings, which they’ll probably want to talk through even if it’s difficult for them to articulate. Make sure they know that they can discuss these feelings with you at any time, or arrange to have them see a counselor if you think that’s the best way for the child to process the change that divorce brings. If possible, try to get the other parent to keep lines of communication open, which can promote emotional resilience and build stronger bonds.

If your marriage is coming to an end, you need a divorce lawyer with years of experience, a compassionate approach, and a reputation for excellent service. From their offices in Crossville, TN, Patton & Hyder PLLC offers effective, competent service to clients throughout eastern Tennessee, providing the legal guidance you need in difficult times. Visit their website for more on their family law services, follow their Facebook for regular news and updates, or call (931) 787-1333 to speak with a divorce lawyer today.