The decisions that lead to contacting a divorce lawyer are extremely difficult, arrived at only after careful thought and deliberation. If you and your spouse have discussed the possibility of divorce or are currently separated, it can be tough to know when, or if, the time is right to proceed. To help you decide whether to move forward, below are three tips divorce lawyers advise their clients to bear in mind when making this major decision.

The Marriage Isn't Meeting Both of Your Needs

The first order of business should be to take a long, hard look at the relationship. Unhappy unions are typically those in which only one—or neither—spouse feels fulfilled and validated. While it's unrealistic to expect a partner to fulfill every last one of your needs, you should at the minimum feel satisfied and content in the relationship. If even one of you isn't experiencing this satisfaction and ease, it may be time to consider a divorce lawyer.

You've Exhausted All Other Avenues

Divorce should never be a first-ditch option. It should only be the last resort after all other potential solutions have been thoroughly explored. Attend couples counseling. See a therapist one on one. Speak to trusted friends, family members, or clergy. Take time for yourself and examine what you really want. If, after these methods have been exhausted, divorce feels like the next logical step, consider it a sign.

You Wouldn't Want the Kids to Have Marriages Like Yours

Many people choose to stay together for the sake of the kids. And while this can be admirable in certain situations, in most families, nothing is gained by two unhappy people staying with one another. Kids pick up on that sadness and negativity. So, ask yourself this: Would you want one of your children to have a marriage like the one their parents are currently in? If you can answer, assuredly, that you wouldn't, think about hiring a divorce lawyer.

The above factors can help you determine if divorce is right for you. The divorce lawyers at Patton & Hyder, PLLC are here to guide you through the process. They serve clients in Cumberland County, TN, regarding several types of legal issues, including family law matters, personal injuries, and criminal defense cases. Call (931) 787-1333 or visit their website to arrange a consultation.