After a divorce, where children should spend the holidays is a common point of tension that can be difficult to navigate. Parents will each want to spend the holidays with their children and maintain family traditions, but this may require some compromises. Below is a guide to follow for peaceably dividing the holidays.

A Guide to Splitting Holidays After a Divorce

Check Your Custody Agreement

Child custody negotiations are complex discussions, and parents often do not remember all the fine details of their agreement. Your child custody order may already include instructions about the holidays. If you and your spouse are willing to compromise, you may be able to work out an alternate arrangement, but it is important to know where you stand first.

Prioritize Your Children’s Happiness

When you discuss your holiday arrangements with your spouse, put your children’s needs first. Most children would prefer to spend the holidays with both parents, so it may be in their best interest to put your desires aside. By focusing on your children, it is easier to put negative feelings away for their benefit. 

Consider Different Arrangements

After a divorce, some couples prefer to alternate schedules, with one parent sharing certain holidays with their kids one year, and the other parent spending time with them the next. If this does not work for you, consider splitting the days, with your children spending part of a holiday at one house before switching. Being flexible and creative can help you find a holiday arrangement that works for your family.

Whether you are going through a divorce or dealing with a child custody issue, the legal team at Guillien Van Nuland are here to answer your questions and protect your family. With more than 25 years of experience, they provide compassionate, effective service to clients in Monroe, Vernon, Trempealeau, Crawford, Juneau, and Buffalo counties of WI, and Houston, Fillmore, and Winona counties of MN. Visit their website for more information about their family law services, or call (608) 782-4411 to make your initial appointment.