If you care for an elderly parent, you are not alone. In fact, so many adults look after their aging loved ones that November has been designated National Family Caregivers Month. Every year, the American Heart Association and American Stroke Association make it a point to acknowledge the millions of people who are looking after family members who have a chronic disease. If you provide elderly care for a relative, it should come as no surprise that burnout is likely among caregivers who do not have a support system of their own. Here are some tips for coping. 

Do:

Make time for yourself. 

Caring for someone else is a lot of work. As such, it’s important to take care of your own physical health and mental well-being. Making at least a little time for yourself every day will help you provide the best care possible because it will allow you to operate at full capacity. Even something as simple as reading a few chapters while soaking in the tub can help you feel invigorated and ready to tackle the next day. 

Plan fun activities or outings.

It’s easy to fall into a routine when caring for someone who has a chronic disease. Amid all the obligations, though, don’t forget to actually spend quality time together. Try to go on one outing a week, whether it’s to the movies, the library, or the local craft show. If mobility is limited, plan something fun to do at home that has nothing to do with caregiving.  Watch a classic movie that neither of you has seen in years, play a game of scrabble, start a puzzle, or take up a new hobby together like cooking, sculpting, or knitting. 

Don’t:

Try to do everything yourself. 

Taking on more than you can reasonably handle is the first step on the road to burnout. Never let pride get in the way of asking for help. Everyone has limits, and acknowledging them shows strength, not weakness. It also ensures your parent will get the most attentive care possible. If you don’t have siblings or other relatives in the area who can help out, consider turning to a home health agency and arranging for weekly or daily visits. 

Forget to listen.  

Adult children often feel inclined to do everything for their aging parents to protect them. For most senior citizens, though, maintaining some sense of independence can contribute to their longevity. Don't forget to listen to your loved one. If there is a task he or she is adamant on doing alone, and the doctors have approved it, step back. Use the time to take a little break yourself, and you will both be better off for it. 

If you need help looking after an aging relative, turn to the friendly elderly care providers at Deer Valley Home Health Services. This agency serves clients throughout Berkeley, St. Charles, and St. Louis, MO. For more than a decade, families have turned to their compassionate caregivers for help looking after children with special needs and elderly loved ones. They are also proud to assist veterans, who do not always get the quality care they deserve. Visit their website to find the office nearest you, or call (314) 355-3679 to discuss your family’s elderly care needs.