Coping with the loss of a loved one is overwhelming. If you’re tasked with the responsibility of delivering the deceased’s eulogy at the funeral, you may feel anxious about what to say. By taking the time to reflect on your feelings and gather your thoughts, you can properly express yourself and honor the departed with reverence and love. Here are three suggestions to help you get started.
A Guide to Writing an Appropriate Eulogy
1. Write from the Heart
Don’t be intimidated by the notion of public speaking. Instead, tap into your feelings and think about what made the deceased so special to you. Think of this as your opportunity to tell a meaningful story. It may include a humorous moment with the family, a special trait that everyone knew them for, or a cause that meant a lot to them. Remember that funerals are celebrations of a life well lived, and your speech should reflect that spirit. A personalized eulogy will always be authentic and heartfelt, and that’s the most fitting way to honor the person you love.
2. Don’t Focus on Length
Avoid writing a long speech. Not only may it be difficult to complete if you become emotional while speaking, but it may also be tough for the guests to sit through. Funerals can be lengthy, so it’s best to keep the eulogy on the shorter side. Avoid writing a list of traits. You might wish to create an outline of the story you want to tell. Begin with a greeting, delve into a couple of special moments, and finish with compassionate words of remembrance for family and other loved ones.
3. Take a Deep Breath
Finally, remember that it’s natural to feel overwhelmed in the moment. Funerals and memorial services can bring up many emotions, and you may become caught off guard by feelings, even if you're confident about what you wrote. Stop for a moment, take a breath, and relax. Remember your purpose for speaking, and draw on the love you have for the deceased for strength as you pay tribute. Don’t be afraid to stop if you have to — no one will blame you for taking a moment, and it may help you feel more grounded if you pause.
The caring and compassionate staff at Leeward Funeral Home has proudly served families throughout Oahu since 1967. Based in Pearl City, HI, the funeral home can assist with everything from planning funerals and memorial services to selecting caskets and flowers. They’re committed to helping you and your family through this difficult time and offer a variety of sources for grief support. Visit them online to learn more about their services, or call (808) 455-1041 to speak with a representative today.