All parents at some point or another have heard their young child exclaim, "No!" and "That's mine!" The highly-trained teachers at Seagull Schools in Honolulu want to assure parents that these selfish vocalizations are a normal part of a toddler's development. That's why their preschool curriculum includes teaching little ones the importance of sharing.

Parents play a pivotal role in teaching their child how to play nice. Child development expert Dr. Sears offers some advice to parents on how to cultivate a sense of generosity in your child:

• Adjust Your Expectations: Until about 2.5 years of age, children participate in parallel play, or playing alongside but not with their peers. Expecting 18 month olds to share is a bit like expecting them to ride a bicycle—they’re just not ready yet. Furthermore, not all people have the same temperament. Observe your child during play with others so you know what skills need to be learned or reinforced.
• Some Toys Aren't Meant to be Shared: Not all toys are created equal in a child's eyes. This is especially true when it comes a cherished plush bunny or a security blanket. This kind of toy has become an extension of your child's self and asking him or her to offer up this toy to another child is virtually impossible.
• Give so That Your Child May Also Give: A child who has been the recipient of generosity is a child who is more likely to be generous in return. Forming a close bond in the early years of life goes a long way in building a secure sense of self, which goes hand-in-hand with a willingness to share.

• Teach Generosity Through Play: Children learn best when given the chance to be interactive, rather than being lectured. Games and dramatic play engage a child and ensure that the lessons of taking turns and sharing are understood.
• Know When to Intervene: It can be tough to watch children struggle with sharing, whether they are taking advantage of others or being taken advantage of by other kids. Before you jump in to solve a problem, let children try negotiating sharing on their own. Wait to see if a situation turns sour before intervening.

These are just some of the techniques parents can use to help their child learn to share. It's also important to choose a day-care program that reinforces these lessons, and the excellent early childhood education program at Seagull Schools is one of those day care programs. Visit them online to learn more about their wonderful preschool programs, or call (808) 533-0004 to schedule a visit.