After someone close to you loses their partner, it can be extremely difficult to know what to say in such a challenging time. When you speak to the person at the funeral service, try to avoid using language like “he’s in a better place” or “it was her time,” since that assumes a certain belief system on the part of the mourner. Here are some helpful sentences you can say instead.

Helpful Language to Offer During a Memorial Service

1. “I am so sorry for your loss.”

In dealing with such a difficult subject, it can be valuable to keep it simple. Instead of overcomplicating what you say, express your condolences. These statements often acquire even more power when they’re followed up by statements of love and support, such as “I care about you deeply” and “I love you.” On a hard day, you’ll be letting them know they’re not alone.

2. “One memory I really cherish is…”

In the painful time of grieving before or after a funeral service, one possible bright spot is hearing about how loved the deceased was and is — as well as any special memories you shared with them. By offering a meaningful anecdote, you’ll give the widow or widower something positive to hold onto and focus on. That type of comment can help a memorial become a celebration of the person’s life.

3. “If it’s okay with you, I’ll bring by dinner on Friday.”

The death of a spouse is always an especially lonely time for the surviving partner. While it’s necessary to give them the space they want, it can be a huge emotional help to be a reliable presence for them. Since it’s difficult to ask for company, it’s often better to suggest something yourself, like bringing them over a meal a few days after the funeral service and staying for a chance to talk.

For someone who will help you plan a meaningful funeral service, you can always count on Leo M. Bean And Sons Funeral Home. Serving the Rochester, NY, community for over four decades, the family-owned and -operated funeral home offers services for all belief systems and faiths. To begin a conversation about funeral and memorial services, feel free to call (585) 426-7830. Learn more about the funeral home by visiting their website.