When you visit a loved one’s grave, it is a way of both paying your respects and keeping their memory alive. But these rituals are far from straightforward—many people are unsure when they should go and what they should bring, if anything, to the grave marker. Here is a guide for what can make a meaningful trip to the cemetery.

When Should You Visit?

There are no rules for when you should visit a grave—it is up to each person to visit at times that are meaningful to them. Some people choose to go on the day the loved one died, their birthday, or the anniversary of when they met. Others prefer to go on holidays or other special times like the new year. 

What Should You Bring?

While granite monuments will not begin to break down any time soon, it’s possible that the grave marker will accumulate some dirt or animal droppings. While the cemetery crew will cut the grass, it’s generally the family’s responsibility to clean the marker, so bring some basic supplies, like soap, a spray bottle of water, and a washcloth. You should also pack a lunch so you aren’t troubled by hunger during the visit and can focus on remembrance. 

What Can You Do While You’re There?

Many people like to go beyond just cleaning the gravestone and adorn it with fresh flowers, special stones, or other meaningful items. Beyond the aesthetics, the visit also provides a time for you to speak to the deceased, or simply remember them in a serene environment. If you’ve gone with family, it can be a nice time to reminisce about happy memories that you spent with your loved one. 

When you’re looking for a special grave marker befitting of your lost loved one, speak to a custom memorial expert at Quincy Memorials around the South Shore, MA. Serving the community for over six decades, the family-owned monument maker is known for their personal touch, helping mourners create deeply meaningful tributes to the deceased. Call (617) 471-0250 to discuss your needs or browse different options on the company’s website.