Everyone reacts differently to loss, which can make visitation and funeral services melting pots of emotion. Especially if you are not one of the closest family members or friends of the deceased, it can be challenging to know how to act. Is it okay to cry? And, what should you say when paying respects to the family? To make the most of this reverent and symbolic occasion, consider this etiquette guide.

3 Pointers for Visitation & Funeral Service Etiquette

1. Don’t Overstay Your Welcome

If the family has arranged to have a visitation, it will likely take place at the funeral home. This event is usually held before the funeral service, and it allows loved ones of the deceased to meet, connect, and reminisce before the ceremony. Only attend this portion of the proceedings if you are invited, as it can be an intimate occasion. When you arrive, take cues from your surroundings on how to react. If most people are quietly keeping to themselves or crying, simply drop by to show you care before stepping out. If friends and family are eating, drinking, and sharing stories about their loved one, show your compassion by staying to listen or joining in.

2. Politely Introduce Yourself

Whenever you first meet those closest to the deceased, whether at the visitation or the funeral service, don’t assume they know who you are. Even if they met you in the past, the grief that comes after losing a loved one can be disorienting, so approach them politely to make your presence known. Depending on their personality, you may want to start with a handshake instead of a hug, and tell them your name and your relationship to the deceased. From there, they may reach out for an embrace.

3. Respect Their Wishes

In some cases, the deceased may have asked for certain alterations to be made to traditional aspects of a funeral service. Whether it be that the attendees wear bright colors or that donations be made to a charity in place of flowers, it’s best to respect these wishes to your best ability. If you can’t afford to spend money on a donation, send a card to the family within at least four weeks of the funeral service.

If you’re looking for more helpful tips about visitations and funeral etiquette, turn to the compassionate team at Johnson-Kennedy Funeral Home of Canandaigua and East Bloomfield, NY. In addition to helping you learn how to be a respectful attendee, they can also arrange a memorial or funeral service for someone close to you. To get in touch with their staff, call (585) 394-4280 today. You can also visit the website for a closer look at their trusted offerings.