Any attorney will tell you divorce is an intense process that ushers in all sorts of uncomfortable emotional baggage, generally making life more stressful and complicated. However, knowing what to do—and what to avoid—can minimize the stress and pain of this life change.

Do:

Honestly disclose all financial information.

Failing to disclose all financial information during a divorce is both illegal and unethical. In the eyes of the law, it is considered contempt of court or even perjury not to be fully forthcoming about all of one's financial holdings. Also, do not attempt to hide assets or withdraw large amounts of money from joint accounts, as the judge will not view such actions favorably.

Hire an attorney.

Divorce and family law matters are complex to navigate without counsel. Divorce lawyers know the statutes inside and out and will handle everything from filing documents and legal motions to negotiating with opposing counsel.

Don't:

Post on social media.

Though divorce may be frustrating, venting on social media could harm the outcome of your divorce, especially if there is a custody dispute, anything you share online is a matter of public record and can be used against you. Refrain from posting about the divorce or making disparaging remarks about your spouse while proceedings are ongoing.

Be petty in your disagreements.

You certainly don't need to be best friends with your soon-to-be ex, but maintaining civility is always smart. Be mature in all dealings with your spouse and be willing to compromise on issues where you don't see eye to eye.

If you're going through a divorce, let the Upstate Legal Center of John V. Shepard in Rochester, New York, look out for you. Attorney Shepard has more than three decades of experience in family law, personal injury, and estate planning matters, to name just a few of his practice areas. Call (585) 429-5422, visit him online, or contact him on Facebook to set up a consultation.