A legal separation can present unique challenges to families going through transition and change. When determining who gets the kids over school and summer vacations, it’s important for parents to reach mutually agreeable solutions that honor the best interests of the children. Below are a few ways to help you and your spouse find common ground and equitably share vacation time.

How to Equitably Divide Vacation Time 

1. Make the Other Parent Part of the Planning Process

Don't set up a rigid vacation schedule and then expect your spouse to go along with it. Include them in the planning process: get their input, hear their preferences, and be willing to give and take. If the vacation is a longer one, like a summer break, think about splitting it up; half of the season with one parent, half with the other. Cooperation is essential to effective co-parenting during a legal separation.

2. Consider What Would Make the Kids Happiest

You want your kids to be happy, so consult with them about their vacation preferences. Where would they like to spend their time off? If it's summer break, maybe one parent has a pool or a large, safe yard in which to play. If the kids had to switch schools, they may want to catch up with their old friends in the other parent’s neighborhood. When the decision comes from the children, it makes it easier for everyone to accommodate and feel satisfied with the results.

3. Have a Family Meeting

To keep everyone on the same page, call an all-family meeting. Parents and kids should come together to work out the details of how to split their vacation time. It allows children to feel cared for and involved and is especially helpful to older kids who have activities, commitments, and social lives. You will also arrange a definitive plan in one sitting rather than play phone tag and risk miscommunication.

If you're considering a legal separation, or are separated and encountering scheduling and visitation issues, let the attorneys at Edmiston Law assist. They represent the Scottsboro, AL, area in all aspects of family law issues, offering quality legal counsel to protect clients’ rights and best interests. Call (256) 259-0834 to make an appointment with an attorney today. Visit online to learn more about their background and expertise in this practice area.