Accepting the death of a loved one is never easy, but the process can be especially challenging for children who have just lost a parent. If you are a relative or family friend, you can do immeasurable good by being a supportive presence during their mourning period. Here, Leo M. Bean And Sons Funeral Home of Rochester, NY, explains how to help a grieving child deal with their parent’s death and funeral service.

4 Tips for Helping a Child Through the Death of a Parent

1. Explain Simply & Honestly

If the child is fairly young, they may have a hard time grasping the concept of their loss. To help them come to terms with the situation, sit them down in a quiet, comfortable environment. Then, explain to them that Mommy or Daddy has gone away — but not because they didn’t want to be around their child or family anymore. If the child was raised in a religious background, you can bring the child comfort by letting them know their parent is in heaven, or at least, “a better place.” It might also help to explain what will happen next, such as where the child will be staying and how the funeral services will proceed.

2. Pay Attention

As the funeral planning process carries on, pay attention to the child and make sure they feel included. While they shouldn’t be involved in the more graphic details of the process, such as choosing between burial or cremation, they may find comfort in helping pick the photos or music used in the funeral service.

3. Accept & Support

Check in with the child as the ceremony goes on, from the visitation to the wake and burial service. If the child needs a shoulder to cry on, listen attentively to their feelings, and don’t dissuade them from initial phases of denial or anger. The grieving process has many stages, and while the child’s emotions may not last, it’s essential to recognize each as valid and help them work through the pain.

4. Offer Routines & Ritual

If the child’s parent participated in certain habits or routines throughout the week, offer to continue these rituals. Accept that they might not want to continue the activity now that their parent is gone, and suggest a different activity to take their mind off the absence. Whether you go for a walk, read a story, or cook a meal together, staying busy will help the child realize that all is not lost.

If you are helping a family friend or relative after the death of a loved one, turn to Leo M. Bean And Sons Funeral Home for a helping hand. For over 40 years, they have been tending to the needs of area residents, providing dignified memorial and funeral services that commemorate the lives lost. If you have questions about funeral costs, call them at (585) 426-7830. You can also visit the website for more information on their services.