Broaching the topic of divorce with children can be a sensitive issue; parents should handle it with a certain amount of care and planning. To best prepare your kids for the change, it’s important to follow certain steps and avoid common mistakes. To guide you through the process, the family law attorneys at the Knochel Law Offices, P.C., in Bullhead City, AZ, offer the following do’s and don'ts.

Do:

Break the news together.

Despite any feelings about your soon-to-be ex, it’s best to convey the news to your kids together. Set any differences aside and leave the battles to your family law attorneys. Doing so fosters a sense of unity and support and lets the children know that, while living arrangements may change, they have two parents who love them. 

Tell them they are loved and not to blame.

Kids need reassurance at any age. Tell the children often that you care for them, and they are not to blame for the divorce. Reiterate that the split occurred because you and your spouse lack compatibility. However, both of you love the kids unconditionally.

Don't:

Be vague or quick to end the conversation.

You don't want to share all the messy, intimate details that led to your divorce. However, don't be purposefully vague or elusive when breaking the news to your kids. Use language and terminology that is age-appropriate and share the facts you think they are mature enough to handle. Avoid blaming your spouse too. Don't end the conversation before your children have had a chance to absorb the news and ask questions. Let the discussion flow organically and reach a natural conclusion.

Assume everything is fine.

During or after the conversation, don't assume everything is fine, especially if your kids are quiet or not saying much about the divorce. They are likely processing the gravity of the situation, what it means, and how it will affect the family. Check in with them regularly, ask how they're feeling, and see if they have more concerns. Encourage them to share their thoughts and set aside time to spend together. Do everything in your power to make them feel supported.

Follow these tips to help your kids weather the ups and downs of divorce. For assistance with the legal aspects of the split, turn to the family law attorneys at the Knochel Law Offices, P.C. They've been serving Arizona, California, and Nevada residents in a variety of legal matters for over three decades. They offer quality counsel and representation through every step of the process. Call (928) 444-1000 or visit their website to schedule an appointment with a family law attorney today.