Dealing with death is never easy, especially when you have to explain it to a child. Despite being such a heavy topic, the professionals at Porto Funeral Homes believe death is something you should prepare your young ones for sooner than later to help them understand the concept and cope with grief. Below, New Haven County’s premier funeral home shares some valuable information to guide you through this discussion.

How to Talk to a Child About Death

1. Share the News

It may be tempting to use doublespeak to shield your child from grief, but saying things like “he or she has gone to a better place” will only confuse them. Instead, be direct in your phrasing. It may help to begin the conversation in a setting where your child is comfortable and use simple, age-appropriate words. Give them time to process what you say, and stand by to answer any questions they may have.

2. Attending the Funeral

Explain to them ahead of time about what will take place during the ceremony, including who will be in attendance, prayers that may take place, and the possibility of tears, hugs, and other signs of mourning. During the service, consider seating your child with someone they are comfortable with and who will answer their questions if any arise. However, if your child does not wish to attend the funeral, you should not force them. 

3. Give Them Time

No two people will experience grief the same way, including children. Getting back to a routine after losing someone takes time, and it’s necessary to give your child the time and space they need to mourn. It’s also appropriate to be honest about your emotions in their presence; they need to know it’s okay to feel sad sometimes and cry. Continue having ongoing conversations with them regarding their feelings about the loss of their loved one, and give them comfort when they need it most.

For over 75 years, the compassionate professionals at Porto Funeral Homes have supported the residents of New Haven County during their times of grief. They are here to help you honor the life of your departed loved ones. Whether you need funeral, cremation, memorial, or burial services, they will assist you with the necessary arrangements. To speak with someone at this funeral home, call (203) 467-3000 for East Haven or (203) 934-5000 for West Haven. Visit their website for more information today.