When someone close to you has suffered a loss, it’s important to offer them your support. Although the matter is delicate, according to Middendorf Funeral Home, there are a few simple actions you can take to help the bereaved through such a painful time. Located in Northern Kentucky, this funeral home has faithfully served their community since the late 1800s. If a loved one is grieving, they recommend keeping the following in mind.

Do:

Reach out consistently.

Whether they’re directly responsible for making arrangements with the funeral home or not, the bereaved are often overwhelmed with both emotions and obligations. Also, it’s not uncommon for them to isolate themselves so that they can cope. Because of these things, it’s best to take matters into your own hands by reaching out and offering your support.  

Focus on listening.

If you’re trying to be supportive during a loss, the best course of action is listening. Let them know they’re free to talk about whatever is going through their mind and that you won’t judge their emotions. You can ask questions, but don’t push too hard for any particular answer.

Follow up.

Presence is everything. If you don’t see them in person very often, make a note in your calendar to check on them in the next few weeks. Important holidays and anniversaries often tend to be vulnerable times as well. Take another trip, make another phone call, or write them a sincere email.

Try Not To:

Assume they want space.

Unless they’ve explicitly stated so, don’t automatically assume they want to be left alone. Remember, those in grief have a lot on their plate and reaching out can be difficult for them. Then, even if they say they need space, make an effort to follow up. Always check in on them.

Make comparisons.

Although there is a long list of literature surrounding loss and mourning, everyone ultimately processes grief differently. Avoid making comparisons as much as possible. Allow them to focus on their own feelings as well as their own relationship with the deceased.

Worry about saying the wrong thing.

While choosing your words is certainly important, again, above all, it’s about having a supportive presence. Being there for them counts immensely. Don’t let the fear of saying something wrong get in the way of showing up and showing your concern.

For additional information and resources regarding grief, Middendorf Funeral Home has posted a list on their website. Should you find yourself on the other side of the situation and needing to plan a funeral, they're available to help with any funeral services. If you have any questions, feel free to call them directly at (859) 341-7800.