When people pass away many families wonder whether they should bring their kids to funerals. Some aren’t sure how their children will react, and many don’t know how to make the situation comfortable for them to attend. However, with a little forethought and empathy, kids of any age can go to funerals. To help you and your kids get through these difficult events, Leesman Funeral Home in Millstadt, IL, shares some advice they give to families in their time of need.

Help Kids Cope During Funerals With These 3 Tips

1. Let Them Know It’s Alright to Show Emotion

Funerals are difficult for people of all ages. Adults can cry and show their emotions or choose to hold in how their feeling, so kids may not know how to feel. They might want to laugh and play, while others are worried about not feeling the need to cry. Let them know that everyone processes grief differently and they can feel however they are feeling with no pressure. 

2. Offer Them a Break

Many kids need the chance to take a breather during funerals. Allow them the opportunity to leave the ceremony and spend a few minutes outside or in a hallway. There, they can process their emotions or simply get out some energy so they’re ready to go back inside. If you need or want to be inside the funeral home for the entire ceremony, consider having a babysitter or designated carer to tend to your little one. 

3. Invite Them to Participate

Your kids may better understand the death of their loved one if they are involved in the funeral. Consider finding an age-appropriate way for them to participate so they can feel that their presence has a purpose. Toddlers may color a card for the deceased’s immediate family. Older kids who are experiencing the death of a close loved one may want to read at the funeral or serve as pallbearers. Talk with your children about how they want to help and if they are interested in being involved as part of the grieving process.

Along with the advice above, it’s a good idea to talk your kids through what a funeral will entail. Explaining what to expect can help them understand what is going to happen. For additional tips on helping kids cope, call Leesman Funeral Home at (618) 476-1000. Visit their website for information on their grief and healing resources. Their compassionate and experienced funeral directors will provide the assistance you need with funeral planning and support during this important time.