The loss of a loved one is never easy, but the unexpected nature of suicide can leave survivors struggling to cope with their grief more than if the death was after a long-term illness. Planning and getting through the funeral can be trying enough, but how do you cope when the services are over? Below are some strategies to help you through your grief during this difficult time.

How to Deal With a Loved One’s Suicide

1. Don’t Blame Yourself

Survivors often experience a lot of guilt after a loved one dies by suicide, wondering what they could have done differently, whether they missed signs, and more. Blaming yourself won’t help you move through your grief, however, so it’s best to accept you did all you could.

2. Practice Self-Care

Self-care is more important now than ever before, and that doesn’t mean just taking bubble baths or getting a massage (although those can certainly help you relax). Instead, focus on the basics, like eating nutritional meals, getting some exercise, and getting plenty of rest.

3. Expect Ups & Downs

As time grows between their death and funeral and the present, you’ll begin to return to your routines and feelings of normalcy. Be prepared, however, for familiar places and special occasions like holidays and anniversaries to bring up feelings of grief once more. Acknowledge those feelings and remind yourself that your tomorrows will be better.

4. Join a Support Group

The stigma surrounding suicide in many cultures has made it incredibly difficult to discuss, particularly for survivors. You may struggle with speaking openly about your loss with friends and even other family members. Joining a support group for survivors can be beneficial, as they’ll have a better understanding of what you’re going through.

5. Seek Professional Help

Studies have shown survivors are 65% more likely to attempt to take their own life following a loved one’s death by suicide. Suicidal thoughts are normal after any loss, but may be particularly heightened after suicide. If these feelings become intense or you have the urge to act on them, talking with a counselor can help you work through it and keep you safe.

Remember that it’s okay to cry and laugh and live your life—it’s all part of the healing process. If you’ve recently lost a loved one and need assistance with planning the service, turn to the compassionate directors at Porto Funeral Homes in New Haven County, CT. Whether you want traditional or contemporary funeral or cremation services, they’ll help you honor and memorialize your loved one. Call them today at (203) 467-3000 in East Haven or (203) 934-5000 in West Haven, or visit them online to learn more about the services offered.