It’s normal to experience different emotions when a loved one passes away, especially as you begin the difficult task of planning a funeral or memorial service. Swiss psychiatrist Elisabeth Kubler-Ross identified five stages of grief in her model, which many psychiatrists and grief counselors still rely on in their work. These phases don’t necessarily follow a set order, nor will every bereaved person experience them all. Here are the five stages explained in greater detail.

The 5 Stages of Grief

1. Denial

One's initial reaction to a loved one’s terminal diagnosis or death is often denial. This response is typical of shock, and the feeling likely will dissipate as you come to terms with the news.

2. Anger

The death of someone you care about does not seem fair, and feelings of frustration or anger aren't unusual. Even if you feel resentment toward your lost loved one or a higher power, know that this response is natural. 

3. Bargaining

You may try to regain control of your emotions by questioning what actions you might have taken to change the situation. It’s common to dwell on “what if” or “if only” thoughts as you experience grief and the guilt that can sometimes accompany it. Many people try to make deals with a higher power to stop the pain they’re feeling during this time.

4. Depression

Sadness is a very typical response to death, and many bereaved will experience a depression stage in their grief. Signs of depression may include decreased appetite, crying, withdrawal from other family and friends, loss of sleep, or excessive sleep. Obligations like work or making funeral arrangements may feel overwhelming or even impossible.

5. Acceptance

This fifth stage of grief feels unattainable to many who are coping with a recent loss. However, accepting your loved one is gone doesn’t mean you feel happiness. It merely says you acknowledge your new reality and are taking steps to move on. Some days will be worse than others, but as acceptance sets in, the good days will start to outnumber the bad.

Adzima Funeral Home in Stratford, CT, has been helping people prepare funeral services for more than a century. The family-owned business upholds a tradition of serving the community with respect, dignity, and service. They know your family needs a compassionate staff during this sensitive time who will talk you through arrangements and offer support 24/7. Call (203) 375-2200  or visit their website to learn more.