Even if you’re certain your marriage is over, telling your spouse you want a divorce is never easy. Maybe the friction between you has gotten so bad that the conversation will spark a nasty fight, or maybe you’re not sure how to broach this sensitive topic. The divorce law team at Brown, Burgoon, & Hartnagel, PC has some tips to make this difficult discussion as easy as possible.

How to Talk to Your Spouse About Divorce

Give Yourselves Time

Many people attempt to get this difficult conversation over with as quickly as possible, but this approach can leave your spouse feeling blindsided and angry. Instead, choose a time when you’ll both have time to talk and the kids aren’t around. It’s important that you can both express yourselves without restraint.

Don’t Rehash the Past

Once your spouse finds out that you want a divorce, be ready for them to start assigning blame and trying to provoke a fight. Instead of revisiting what either of you may or may not have done in the past, stay focused on the future. Try not to get defensive and calmly let them know you’ve made up your mind.

Don’t Try to Work Everything Out

You might have been considering divorce for a while and have ideas about splitting up the marital assets and sharing custody. However, your spouse probably won’t be in the right mindset to discuss these issues, so save them for another time. Before that discussion, talk to a divorce law attorney who will ensure all your rights are protected.

The legal team at Brown, Burgoon, & Hartnagel, PC has been serving New York’s Rockland and Orange counties since 1992, offering their clients detailed guidance in a variety of divorce law matters. They understand how confusing and emotionally trying these situations can be and will do anything possible to provide support. Visit their website to learn more about their divorce law services and call (845) 624-1966 to schedule an initial consultation.