Losing a loved one is an overwhelming experience fraught with emotion. Grieving is difficult enough, but it is particularly challenging when you are tasked with planning a memorial or funeral service. Fortunately, you are not alone. Holman-Howe Funeral Homes in Seymour, MO, is here to offer four pieces of advice to help you plan a memorial for your loved one. 

A Planning Guide for Memorial Services

1. Ask Friends & Family to Speak 

Ask friends and family to share their stories and memories of the deceased or read poetry, prose excerpts, or religious passages. This allows attendees to honor the deceased in their own way while adding a personalized touch to the memorial service. You may decide beforehand who you would like to speak or designate a few speakers and then leave the floor open for others. Anecdotes can be sad, nostalgic, funny, moving, or all of the above. 

2. Honor the Deceased’s Personality 

Another way to personalize the service is by adding elements that reflect the deceased’s personality. Consider playing their favorite music or serving their favorite foods. You can also create a memory table with photos of the deceased at various stages of life, along with memorabilia such as hobby items, a military uniform, or professional degrees and awards. 

3. Given Personalized Gifts 

Give guests something to take home as a way to thank them and commemorate the deceased. It doesn’t have to be extravagant; in fact, something elegant and straightforward is best. For example, you may give away a memorial card with a picture and a favorite quote of the deceased, a flower from the service, or a symbolic trinket. Guests can keep these over the years to evoke memories and conversation about your lost loved one. 

4. Ask for Help 

One of the most challenging things to do in the wake of a death is to ask for help. You may be afraid of looking weak or fear being a burden. Know that those close to you want to help but may not know how to do so. Let friends and family know what tasks they can take on to lighten your load. In most cases, they will be more than happy to assist. Also, enlist the help of your funeral director. The funeral director will help you with everything from arranging the service to greeting guests and sending thank you cards. 

If you recently lost a loved one, rely on the compassionate professionals at Holman-Howe Funeral Homes to help you plan a memorial or funeral service. Whether you choose to have the ceremony at home or their location, they will ensure the service is a beautiful tribute. Call (417) 935-2244 to speak with a staff member. Or, visit their website for more advice and guidance on the grief and healing process.