Wakes and funerals are two ways in which friends and families can remember their loved ones after death. But while there are some similarities, the two are distinct types of memorial services. Here’s what grieving families should know about the differences. 

Understanding Wakes & Funerals

What Is a Wake?

Wakes are an opportunity for mourners to commiserate and share their respects after someone passes away. Rooted in Catholic tradition, these memorial gatherings are often held in the home of the loved one before or in place of a funeral, where food, drink, and support is offered. The family can choose whether to have the body present. Wakes and visitations are often used interchangeably, but contemporary visitations are held at funeral homes or places of worship before funeral services and typically don’t include drink or food. Wakes can also include a brief rosary service performed by a priest.

What Is a Funeral?

Funerals are formal events that include the burial of the deceased in a cemetery or mausoleum. They are often held inside a place of worship, funeral home, or graveside and are conducted by a religious figure, usually representative of the departed’s faith. Loved ones are also given the chance to speak during the service to share memories. Funeral services often conclude with a burial or cremation service.

How Do I Choose a Funeral Service?

Grief can make the process of planning a funeral service more difficult, so it’s important to have the knowledge and compassion of a funeral home staff. They will help you select from options such as choosing a coffin or urn, what type of music will accompany the service, who will preside over it, and whether to have a wake or formal funeral service.

If you want to make pre-arrangements for funeral services or need help planning a loved one’s services in New Haven County, CT, the caring team at Porto Funeral Homes can answer your questions and guide you through the process. Call (203) 467-3000 for East Haven or (203) 934-5000 to reach their West Haven location. Visit them online to learn more about their funeral, burial, and cremation services.